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How I became a feminist

Feminist [noun]: A person who supports feminism.  Feminism [noun]: the advocacy of women’s rights on the ground of the equality of the sexes. a belief in the social, political, economic equality of the sexes.  I guess it started from a young age. I grew up in a feminist household. My mother was always very strong-willed, and my father was always this quiet, gentle yet strong presence. He went to work whilst…

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What anxiety feels like

Living with anxiety has all kinds of consequences. For example, I am never good enough. Whether that’s in regards to my appearance (the wrinkles around my eyes, my crooked nose), the work I do everyday (I don’t work hard enough, I don’t produce enough results, I have very basic skills), the food I put in my body (it’s not pure enough, whole enough, or nutrient-dense enough). Basically…nothing I do is…

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I’m a horrible person / Delete the haters

Sometimes I think I’m a horrible, disgusting person. Not because of how I act or behave, or the way I treat people or the way I think. I feel like a horrible person because people tell me I am… I’m a horrible person because of the advice I give to 14-year-old girls on this blog. I’m ruining their lives, taking their innocence, and turning something sacred and special like sex into a…

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Do what is right for you

The year I turned 24 I went through some fairly significant life changes: I finished my Master’s thesis and six years of university, my grandfather passed away, I moved cities and took my first job out of school, I got dumped in a bad way, travelled to Europe for the first time, lost loads of weight and my period, started smoking, started and quit a PhD program at a French…

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Blowjobs: An act of submission?

This post is part of my sex-ed series. To get these posts in your inbox sign up here.  I had a comment recently from a reader in which she talks about how her boyfriend has stopped going down on her. Despite this she still performs blowjobs on him whenever they meet. The issue, however, is that she is now left disappointed and resentful towards him. Which got me thinking about…

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Why wasn’t I told?! Learning how to masturbate and what it could mean for gender equality

This post is part of my sex-ed series. To get these posts in your inbox sign up here.  I started masturbating at 18. By that point I had been sexually active for four years. I had a handful of sexual partners to date, dispensed sex advice to friends, and prided myself on my knowledge of sexual health. In many respects, I was considered “experienced”. But my savviness when it came…

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What to do when the condom breaks or falls off?

This post is part of my sex-ed series. To get these posts in your inbox sign up here.  You’ve done everything possible to have safe sex. You bought condoms, you read the funny diagram instructions on the box and followed them to a tee. Maybe you practiced putting the condom on a banana. Or maybe you didn’t.   Either way, it failed, and you now could be facing pregnancy, herpes, or…

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USA and Canada Road Trip 2016

In March 2016 my husband and I embarked on a five-week road trip around the USA and Canada. By any measure it was a trip of a lifetime and certainly one we’ll never forget. Driving from state-to-state has always been considered a novel and romantic journey – one that dreams, books and movies are made of. Who hasn’t had the desire to hop into an old beat-up Ford and drive down…

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How I beat anxiety and depression

About a year ago I was suffering with anxiety and depression. I set out to cure it through alternative means: diet, exercise and meditation. I called it my Eat Pray Sweat challenge, and I pledged to document my experience on this blog. But I didn’t. I don’t need to tell you that depressed and anxious people are inherently demotivated when they’re anxious and depressed. I had every intention of sharing…

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How to have sex and not be labeled a slut

This post is part of my sex-ed series. To get these posts in your inbox sign up here

Slut [derogatory noun]:

  • Dated meaning: A woman with low standards of cleanliness.
  • Present day meaning: A woman who has had many casual sexual partners.

Never in my life did I think I would be offering advice about sex on my personal blog. But here I am and here you are, reading it.

If you type “losing virginity at 14” into Google, my blog is the first result.

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